Want to make your story impossible to put down?
Create instant sympathy with your characters.
Make sure you have at least a handful of these tools in your first chapter. Here are 26 ways to make your readers fall in love with your characters, and beg for more.
#5 is my favorite. Can you guess why?
What Makes a Sympathetic Character?
Let’s get one thing out of the way:
Sympathetic does not mean nice.
There are plenty of addicting characters who are prickly, unsavory bastards:
- Wolverine
- Jack Sparrow
- Hannibal Lecter (I’ll explain in a minute)
Likable characters don't need to be on the hero's side.
These tips are so universal, you can use them to turn even the most hateful character into a complex, sympathetic villain that we can root for.
26 Effective Tools to Write More Likable Characters
Note: There are so many tools to write likable characters, I couldn’t fit them all into one post. Part 2 will go up next week. You can subscribe to the blog so you'll see when it goes up.
Let's start with the easy ones!
1. Your Character Must Have a Great Need
The beginning of every great story starts with a character who has powerful motivations.
- Captain Ahab needs to kill Moby Dick.
- Luke Skywalker wants to leave Tattooine.
- Terry Pratchett’s Rincewind, the least of all wizards, will do anything to be left alone
Even the weakest character becomes strong the moment you give them a powerful motivation.
Why is Motivation So Important?
Motivation makes us care. It’s so much easier to empathize with a character who actively desires something.
At the very least, motivation will drive your story forward. At the very best, it will give your readers an instant sympathetic connection with your character.
2. Your Character Must Have Conflicting Motivations
Complex motivations are an extremely powerful tool. Brandon Sanderson, author of The Stormlight Archives, is a great example of this:
- His main characters have multiple motivations
- These motivations come into conflict with each other
- Readers are desperate to watch the “right” motivation come out on top
Read more about how he creates complex motivations here.
3. Your Character Must Have Limits
There are lines that must not be crossed.
Look at Elsa, a side character from Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade:
She goes through a wonderful redemption arc - even helps Indiana kill the bad guy at the end.
But she is too hungry for the Holy Grail, and steals it for herself - even though the Guardian warned against such an action. Worse, her actions endanger all of the people who helped her survive.
...and in that moment, Elsa loses all sympathy. We think, “She deserves what she gets now.”
A sympathetic character does not seek their goal “at any cost” - unless that goal is…
4. Your Character Must Act Selflessly
George R. R. Martin’s characters are notoriously complex.
Except for Jon Snow.
In A Song of Ice and Fire, he was the bastard son of a King. His adopted mother loathed him. And he had every right to be an embittered, jealous man.
Yet he isn’t. Jon makes the conscious decision, again and again, to put others’ needs ahead of his. Unlike his older brother - who chose Love over the fate of the entire Kingdom...
...and paid for it.
Jon Snow might not be the cleverest protagonist, but he literally gave his life up - multiple times - for the good of the Realm. And if you don’t trust him by now, it’s probably because George R. R. Martin has made you paranoid.
Damn Red Wedding.
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5. A Friend to all Animals
Does your character pet the dog, or do you kick the dog?
Please, pet the dog.
Have a character be nice to an animal, and our sympathy will soar. One of my favorite versions of this trope (and one I haven’t seen in a while) is the mad, wild animal that nobody can seem to tame.
...except for our very special character. When they tame that animal, we get to see them be firm, brave, and gentle - all at once.
What magic is really at work here?
I think it’s about vulnerability.
When you see a muscle-bound Giant being ultra gentle to the tiny creatures of the world, your heart swells.
It even works on robots - I think Star Wars is a great example: Luke goes out of his way to keep R2-D2 out of danger. Or, at least, he shows compassion for the droid.
Sympathetic Backstories and Emotional Traits
6. Use Narrative Style to Create Sympathy
Want people to care about a character?
Write from their point of view.
First-person narrative is the obvious choice here - because we get to see their emotions, their reactions, etc. But you can also use third person limited (and select instances of second person) to replicate this effect.
For a great fantasy novel that does this, check out Joe Abercrombie’s The Blade Itself. One of the protagonists is a torturer who seems to derive pleasure by hurting others.
But the mere fact that we get to hear his thoughts and his reasoning, above all others, gives us something to sympathize with.
7. Does the Backstory Make Us Feel Bad for Them?
Why do so many stories start with orphans?
- Star Wars
- Harry Potter
- Ready Player One
It’s the easiest, fastest way to make us feel for a character. A sympathetic backstory, when revealed in an interesting way, does two things:
- Fleshes out the character, making them feel more real
- Paints all of their actions in a new - and hopefully sympathetic - light
Gollum is a monstrous little thing. With pale, translucent skin, and wormy fingers.
It’s easy to hate him. Until we see his backstory:
Gollum (formerly known as Smeagol) was not a strong-willed being. He was utterly powerless in the sight of the Ring. Even so, he feels an immediate, cutting regret for his actions with his brother. After his defining moment, we can’t help feel bad for the guy.
...that is, until he crosses the line and betrays the others (again) for his own selfish desires.
8. How to Create Believable, Relatable Flaws
- Greed
- Stupidity
- Too smart for their own good (which really means intelligent but not clever)
- Easily excitable
- Easily frightened.
I can’t possibly cover all of the character flaws.
So here is a resource that attempts to show you how to write loveable flaws. And here’s a sizeable list of them.
The key thing to remember here:
“If the flaw is the character’s own fault, they need a redeeming quality.”
A physical handicap is not the character’s fault. Therefore, there is nothing to forgive.
But cheating on a loved one? The character better have something that specifically counteracts that, otherwise we’ll never forgive them.
I'm reminded of a very important character in American Gods by Neil Gaiman. Even after death, she does everything in her power to redeem herself. And she's not even doing it for forgiveness, but out of guilt and love.
9. Why Self Awareness is Extremely Attractive
Is your character a lily-livered, yellow-bellied COWARD?
We'll still love them if the character is aware of their flaw.
For example, Rincewind from Terry Pratchett’s The Color of Magic knows he’s probably the world’s worst sourcerer [sp]. Also, he’s afraid of everything.
And it tears at him - because people mistake him for, you know, a “real magician” who has “real power.” We get to see him wrestle with the identity that others give him… and eventually accept who he actually is.
Use that self awareness to build the character, escalate the conflict, and make us fall in love.
Write Characters Who are Confident (or at least Competent)
10. The Power of Personality
Where is Hannibal Lecter?
- Locked up
- In a maximum security prison
- In his own, specially made room
So… how does he make us feel like he’s the one in control?
Hannibal Lecter’s personality is striking. Disgusting, yes. But he presents his personality with such confidence, we are magnetized by it.
Personality will attract readers - even if it’s a frightening one.
Lean on confidence.
Make your characters wear that unique voice until they stand so far apart, we can’t help but look at them. That is… as long as you stay away from “obnoxious” personalities. Annoying characters are easy to hate.
11. A Quick List of Admirable Characteristics
One of the most basic ways to make a character likable?
Give them traits everybody admires:
- Loyal
- Modest
- Charismatic
- Courageous
There are plenty of others.
Your goal here is to make sure their attribute really stands out.
You can do this in a couple of ways:
- Set them up against a
- Give them an option to be “lesser,” and have them choose the hard road anyway
For number two, I’m talking about when Neville Longbottom stood up to his friends.
Not because he didn't want to get in trouble. But because he was so damn loyal to them, he didn’t want to see them get injured.
Remember: show don’t tell.
If you tell your readers “she was brave, he was loyal,” we won’t care. Actions speak so much louder than words.
12. Are Brains Better than Beauty?
I hope so. Because I’m only half as smart as I am ugly. Wait-
Anyway, Hermione Granger is an insufferable know-it-all. It’s kind of hard to like her until…
...she uses her vast, encyclopedic knowledge to save Ron and Harry from the Devil’s Snare.
Intelligence can be a very annoying trait. But, find a good use for it, or find a way to mete it out in interesting doses, and readers will admire the genius of your characters.
13. Kindness that Readers Crave
At the end of Star Wars Episode IV, all is lost.
Luke and his squadron are getting torn to pieces. And the last chance to destroy a massive weapon seems … hopeless.
Until, screaming and whooping, Han Solo launches into the frey and saves Luke.
What did Han Solo have to gain by coming back?
Arguably, not much.
And, damn it, we love him for that. Because we knew all along that scruffy-looking nerf herder had a heart of gold.
We just needed to see an action that finally proved it.
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Excellent advice. You’ve given me an idea on how to modify a character I’m working on right now.
Thank you for saying so, Mike!
That's fantastic. As I was writing this, I had to stop myself from workshopping my own characters.
Which idea helped you?
I'd love to hear about your character, and how you're thinking of modifying them.
Definitely a solid list so far. In many ways these are all rooted in creating contrasting or conflicting aspects of a character's identity; flaws that they struggle against, strengths that (by themselves) are not enough (either missing a key component, or just not strong enough), a reason to be "bad" but the choice to be "good", etc.
It reminds me of something else I'm reading, where the author pitches that every good character needs both external and internal conflicts; a combination of positives they don't like/value about themselves (or feel are insufficient), and flaws that they either cannot overcome, or do not sufficiently fight.
Definitely rich food for thought.
Even as the character needs an opponent, they also need to be their own adversary, held taught by their conflicting attributes, until that special "moment of clarity", where a calm certainty takes over, and they make their choice.
I look forward to reading your next installment.
You're exactly right. Next week, there's an entire section on how sympathetic characters defy their worlds, specifically.
As for external vs. internal conflicts... must they always make that decision out of calmness? I can think of several protagonists (both ones who failed tragically, and ones who succeeded with a lot of luck) who made that one, final decision with great emotion.
Excellent thoughts as always, Adam. =)
Thank you, most kind of you to say.
I think that's a fair point, sometimes characters do make their choice in a moment of emotion, but I feel like, more often than not, in the wake of a potent decision, there's a type of calm that often takes over, either the realization of "I feel/believe this" or "the uncertainty is gone".
My protagonist's motivation is a huge problem in my novel. He strives toward stuff from page 1... but it's not enough to make him LIKEABLE. (Great word, by the way!) From THIS post I learn he needs a motivation which began before the story starts... which will also add sympathy to the guy. A "likeable character" is a definitely MUST. (And I completely object to using the "he's an orphan" backstory lol. Han Solo was an orphan TOO?! lol) Awesome list! Thanks for posting!
Thank you, Great post!
I just think that writers should be careful not to overuse these ways. They all make sense, but they also could result in a flat and all-good character. You already mentioned that in the article (the flaws), but I thought it is important to stress it out 🙂
If you're writing a 13-book epic with one main character, it's POSSIBLE you use all 26 of these on your MC. But I think you're right, Vince. That's probably not a great idea. Never forget to make your characters as flawed as possible, because that makes them feel real.
Damn, this really gave me plenty of ideas and the help i needed. thank you so much.